I'm right you're wrong OR I'm wrong you're right

When a child is young and does not know much in the way of the world, he must engage on the assumption that he is wrong and the world is correct. Evolution has provided significant reinforcement of this approach. For example, assuming the other way around, that he is right and the world is wrong proves fatal pretty rapidly in many cases. In other words, a child must learn to be shaped by the world before he learns to shape it.

At some point in the journey, a child learns enough about how the world operates to begin shaping it, and, given opportunity, will invariably begin to shape the world in the same way that he was shaped. Let's call this approach "I transform you in the way you transformed me." Only further along the journey he may gain the ability to shape the world in some primordial way of shaping -- i.e. that which existed within him before he was transformed by the world.

Any other way can only be a variation of the original "I transform you in the way you transformed me." For example, adopting another religion than his native one may deeply change the nature of how he shapes the world, but that's just a layer on top of his original shaping, underneath which he is still relating with the world in the same way it related to him early on.

This primordial way is, I believe, what Jesus meant when he said we must become as a child again; we must become pure and innocent in the same way we were pure and innocent before the world corrupted us into its image.

The primordial approach, that he is wrong and the world is correct, is not natively framed in the way I just described: "I'm wrong, you're right." This is simply a way of framing it so that it can be easily understood by grownups who long ago learned the idea of simplifying things into wrong/right in this dichotomous way. Framed in a way closer to the way children see, it would be more like "Having no ego, therefore no prejudgment of you, I find you to be amazing and beautiful and powerful and wonderful and there is much I can learn from you, let's play!" This description may seem lavish, but listen to a young child learning how the world operates and you'll see their perception is loaded with this exuberant joy that can barely be contained in any single adjective. Others may argue with the idea of "having no ego" because a child seems to be almost pure ego, but this as a misperception about how the ego is formed, which I have written about elsewhere.

Once we learn the ways of the world, we then learn how to begin pushing into it with the assumption "I'm right, you're wrong," just as it pushed this into us. This assumption crystallizes into action at various stages along the journey from childhood to adulthood. Some learn early, and some learn late, and a handful never learn it. This handful are those people typically seen as idiots of some form or another to the adult eyes, while children see such people as grownups who are more like themselves than other grownups. Such idiots do not need to be stupid, in fact can be very intelligent, but in that case it's more of an isolated savant ability because they don't govern their thoughts with the same form of common sense that others do.

The ones who learn early the ways of the world become leaders who operate with great force of ego upon the world. The ones who learn late do not gravitate toward leadership roles, since this requires a force of ego that they do not exert, but they can nevertheless perform very well when such a role falls upon them. The ones who never learn, the idiots, will rarely if ever find themselves in a true leadership role because they lack basic other-critical thinking skills (character judgment) required of one who can lead, even if they may be otherwise intelligent. These people can make excellent friends, and can even be powerful and well respected, but it will always be in a manner which is attached to an actual leader who does have the full critical thinking ability oriented around common sense which really is common. Just as we would typically not give a significant leadership role to a child, adults will rarely if ever give such a role to such a person without constraining it in some important ways.

The future, when we have all "become as children" is one where the Holy Spirit is the leader who governs everything. The essential flaw of "I'm right you're wrong" will gradually fade from the world's consciousness until it no longer dominates as it does today. The underlying insight here is extremely deep, so deep that numerous books can be written about how it affects everything we see and do and believe and how it plays out in the various levels of experience. Hopefully enough is written here to capture the essence in a way that is useful in the future.

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